Meeting FOMO - Emerging Nurse Leader

By Rose O. Sherman, EdD, RN, FAAN

“I think they should consider giving Oscars for meetings: Best Meeting of the Year, Best Supporting Meeting, Best Meeting Based on Material from Another Meeting.” — William Goldman, screenwriter, novelist.

Managing time is very challenging for nurse leaders in today’s environment. Many leaders struggle with trying to be “everywhere”. A colleague recently told me that she had little time to do work because most of her time was spent in meetings. Many of the meetings had no clear outcome, and she was not even sure why she was being asked to attend them yet she feared she would miss out on something if she was not there. She laughing said she a major issue with FOMO.

The Meeting Addiction

Sometimes leaders believe that the only way they can stay in the loop in their organizations is to personally attend all the meetings that are scheduled. It is true that for some leaders attending meetings will be the core of their work. But most leaders have a vast array of other responsibilities that get pushed to the side as they attend often lengthy meetings with no clear goals. A good exercise that we used in one organization that I worked in was to calculate the cost of a meeting in terms of the time of participants. We found that were few meetings that we could honestly say that there was a positive return on investment.

Breaking the Addiction

Prior to attending any meeting, you should consider whether you really need to be there. Your attendance at a meeting means that you will not be doing something else in your area of responsibility. Always ask for the agenda in advance. Perhaps the meeting could be attended by another staff member or maybe you only need to be present for part of the meeting.

Leaders should also avoid being the ones who convene unnecessary meetings. Good meeting management skills are important. Don’t schedule a meeting for something that you can solve in a phone call, and don’t make a phone call for something that can be communicated in an e-mail. If you must schedule meetings, challenge yourself to make them leaner. Try out 30-minute or even 15-minute meetings, and set a goal to finish early. If you find you consistently need more time, you can increase the meeting length in the future, but often with increased focus, you won’t need it.

There are nurse leaders who measure their value by how many meetings they are invited to attend and feel insulted when they are not in the loop on everything. While going to a lot of meetings may make you feel important, but it’s not a good way to allocate your time. You need to give yourself permission to decline meetings. A good exercise to use to help break your addiction is to review each meeting on your calendar for the previous month and then use the above decision tree to determine whether you really needed to be there.

Read to Lead

Saunders, E. B. (February 26, 2013), Break your Addiction to Meetings. The Harvard Business Review Blog.